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6 Months In - 6 Life Changing Lessons

6 Months In - 6 Life Changing Lessons

Jack Salmon
June 24, 2026

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Welcome to this weeks newsletter - 6 Months In - 6 Life Changing Lessons

6 Months In - 6 Life Changing Lessons

And just like that, 6 months of the year have gone.

I can't lie, this year so far has been up and down.

The first 3 months weren't the greatest.

I got injured and had to cancel my 200 mile race.

My app got delayed by several months and needed further investment which set me back heavily.

Changes in the business meant I had a couple of rough months.

And I was faced with a few challenging personal issues.

But these past 3 months things have been going well.

I hit 5 years of sobriety.

My app got accepted and I released it to my clients.

I'm injury free and back enjoying my training.

I solved the personal challenges I had.

And I got confirmed in church.

What I love about life is that regardless of whether you're succeeding or faced with challenges, there will always be lessons to learn and an opportunity to grow.

These are the 6 biggest lessons I have learnt this year so far.

Lesson 1 — Nothing Can Affect You Internally Unless You Let It.

As I mentioned, the first 3 months of the year were challenging for me.

My business wasn't succeeding the way I planned. I was injured and cancelled a race event I had been working towards for 6 months. And personally I was faced with a few challenges.

But with all that said internally I was connected, at peace, not stressed and I felt fulfilled in my life.

In the past, all of these external events would have rocked me. I would have mentally struggled, felt like a failure and been stressed out of my head. But I was the complete opposite.

I didn't let the external events affect me internally.

Externally my business might not have been hitting targets and the app delay set me back a lot of money but I didn't let it make me fearful. Me cancelling the race didn't make me define myself as a failure.

I took these for what they were and done two things.

One, I changed my perspective. I know that by going through challenging times this is actually a positive in the long run because it will allow me to grow even more.

Two ,I didn't let it define who I am. At the core I say to myself "I AM strong, confident, in control, healthy, abundant." When my back was against the wall I couldn't let the external dictate who I believe I am at the core. Because if I did I wouldn't believe I am who I say I am.

If I had let it affect me I knew I would spend days worrying, stressing and living from a place of lack, which would only cause me pain, suffering and push away the success I wanted in my life.

So instead I stayed true to my beliefs, as hard as this was.

And sure enough in month four everything started to shift. I was hitting my biggest deals, hammering my training, my app worked out and I was even more connected and fulfilled than I was before.

Tip — regardless of what you're going through right now, look at it as an opportunity to learn, grow and improve. If you change your perspective you will change the way you feel and that will determine how you behave and the results you get down the line.

Lesson 2 — You Need A Strong Purpose.

Getting through the challenging times mentioned above would not have been possible if I didn't have a strong purpose.

Having a clear purpose makes everything make sense.

By knowing who I want to be in life, it made sure that when the external didn't match the internal, I stayed strong in the person I believe I am deep down.

Having clear goals in place, allowed me to keep showing up and focusing on my inputs instead of the external results. Because I knew if I kept showing up and doing the work, everything would pay off.

Understanding what life I wanted to live, helped me stay true to my values and how I want to live. I still took Sundays off, spent time being present with my family and done the things I enjoyed each day.

And knowing why I must keep showing up ensured I had fuel every single day to keep pushing and overcome my hardships. Without a strong why I could have easily given up and leaned back into destructive habits.

Having a clear purpose is everything to me and the one thing out of everything I have learned that has never let me down.

Without a clear purpose I would lack clarity, direction and meaning in life.

Tip — if you're unsure of your own purpose or even disconnected from it, I urge you to download this free framework that I personally use and have given to all my clients to help them create, reconnect or reengage with their own purpose in life. You can download it for free here:

https://becomethebestyou.mykajabi.com/pl/2148041549

Lesson 3 — Conscious Awareness Is Everything.

When I say awareness, on one side what I mean is being self aware.

Being self aware of how you think, how you feel, how you behave and aware of how you can grow, learn, develop and improve.

But most importantly, tapping into awareness and becoming the observer.

The observer is the part of you which is aware of your thoughts, feelings and behaviours.

Psychologists call this Metacognition, an awareness of thought processes and an understanding of the patterns behind them. Meta means beyond, on top of.

Spiritually it is known as your higher self or true self.

But both point to the same thing, the part of you which detaches from the mind and watches your thoughts, feelings and behaviours without being them.

Why this is so important is because most people are waking up each day unconscious. Repeating the same negative thought patterns, feeling the same way every day, taking the same actions and expecting life changing results.

But they don't get them. They stay stuck in cycles without ever wondering why or how to change it.

When you become the observer you hop into the driver's seat and take back control of your life.

This for me this year has been life changing, especially when faced with challenging and tough times when my mind was trying to run riot.

I could hear my mind saying "you're falling," "it's all going to fall apart," "you're not doing good enough," "you will look like a failure" but instead of attaching myself to these thoughts and letting them control me, I simply detached, observed and chose to think in a way which aligned to my beliefs.

When you become the observer you get to decide how to think, feel and behave and that will determine the results you get in your life.

This alone makes you feel free and in control, which to me is everything.

Tip — explaining the observer in one short section can be difficult to grasp logically. So,I've put together a video so you can truly understand exactly what the observer is and how to tap into it more often. Watch here: https://vimeo.com/1198756918?fl=ip&fe=ec

Lesson 4 — Perspective Is Key.

Everything comes down to meaning and perspective.

You can either look at the challenges you're faced with for what they are, a challenge, a struggle, something stressful. Or you can change your perspective and look at them as an opportunity to learn, grow and develop.

In the past I always chose to look at what I was going through for what it was.

I would stress myself out, feel sorry for myself and wonder why I was always getting challenges and setbacks thrown my way.

But then after the months passed and I got through these challenges I would look back and realise it was the best thing I went through.

All the failures I had with sobriety pushed me to become 5 years sober. All the binge eating with sugar and food pushed me to uncover limiting beliefs and overcome them. All the times my business failed allowed me to learn, improve my sales, marketing and coaching and become a success.

But before, when I was going through them, I would have a pity party.

Not this year.

Whenever I was faced with a challenge or obstacle, instead of moaning, I opened my arms and embraced it. Because I knew this was happening for me and not to me.

Just this small shift in attitude and perspective is life changing.

Tip — whenever you're faced with a tough or challenging situation, do two things.

One, change your perspective and remind yourself it's happening for you and not to you

Two, actually learn from the experience and improve moving forward. If you don't take the lesson on board and grow, it will always feel like a hardship rather than a blessing.

Lesson 5 — Choose Alignment Over Fear.

Alignment to me is living in line with what matters, knowing and accepting who you are whilst growing into a better version of yourself.

Fear on the other hand is trying to protect and prove a version of you that doesn't feel like enough.

Both can be used to succeed but only one lasts long term, feels more peaceful, more fulfilling and keeps you focused on the process.

For years of my life I operated out of fear.

The fear of not being loved, not being enough and being a failure.

Because of this I never felt good enough. I would always seek external validation, do things to prove myself and be driven by ego.

Don't get me wrong, this attitude and mindset got me to a great stage in my life. But what once fuelled me made me feel unfulfilled and was not going to take me any further. That's when I started living in alignment.

Focusing on alignment meant:

Living and staying true to my purpose and values. Focusing on who I am becoming each day. Judging myself on my character, intentions and who I am as a human. Practising self acceptance and internal validation.

It stopped being about ego and proving myself and started becoming about me.

This shift in alignment made me accept myself, feel good enough, increased my energy, I felt more connected, became a better dad and partner, I was happier, more at peace with myself and had even deeper fulfilment and meaning in my life.

When I was operating out of fear it was the opposite. I was harsh on myself, didn't feel good enough, lived in comparison, struggled to rest, rushed the process and never felt internally fulfilled.

I'm not perfect and I still feel fear and my ego creeps in now and again. But it's not controlling me like it once was.

As I said to begin with, everyone heavily relies on ego for success at some point. But there will come a time when it runs out. And if you want true fulfilment and peace in your life, this is the answer you seek.

Tip — if you feel like you're operating out of fear, ego and always seeking external validation to feel good enough, take a step back and get clear on why you're doing what you're doing.

Ask yourself, is this for me or is it to be seen, validated and accepted by others? If it's the latter, it's time to make a change.

If this resonates and you want help making that shift — click here to see how I can help you: https://becomethebestyou.mykajabi.com/BTBU-05ae3837-78e7-497b-b99b-5f2c9bfd610d -

Lesson 6 — Put God First.

As you might have seen, I recently got confirmed in the Christian church and my relationship with God this year has been massively improving.

It's still an ongoing process but one of the most important lessons I have learnt this year is that I don't just want God in my life. I need God.

I have grown a lot in life by myself but this relationship with God and putting him above everything else truly feels different for me.

When I have God first in my mind it stops me from wanting to please people, caring about what others think or getting too wrapped up in my own ego because that is not what God intends for me.

When I think about putting God first over my own ambitions, it ensures I don't get lost trying to worship or attach my identity to my successes, money or achievements.

It allows me to know I am good enough without these things.

It helps me understand I don't need to prove myself.

It shows me how to live a better life as a man, dad, partner and coach.

By putting God first above my own needs, wants and desires, I know and trust that all of these will be met anyway.

Even reading this might be confusing for some,as it once was for me when I didn't have a relationship with God.

It took me quite a while to grasp this because my ego has always been heavily based around being proud and thinking I did everything alone. But the more I've learned and the more I've understood, the more real it has become.

I don't believe I will ever have this or God fully figured out but I will keep trusting, learning and having faith that this is what is best for me and my life. As it has been this year.

Tip — if you want to get into faith, all I would say is be open minded and explore like I did. I was so closed minded in the past that I blocked this out entirely. But by giving it a try it all started to become clear.

If you'd like to know more about my journey you can watch here: https://youtu.be/ykXVHQCmyTg

6 Months To Go.

Lessons are great but the most important thing is not just understanding these lessons. It's applying them.

These lessons have been very impactful for me and I know they can be for you too.

I encourage you to pick the one that stood out to you today and learn that lesson for yourself.

We have another 6 months to go until the end of 2026 and just as these 6 months have passed, so will the next.

You will be one of two people when it does.

One, happy with who you have become and what you have achieved.

Or two, dissatisfied with who you have become and what you have achieved.

I want it to be number one for all of you. And I know that is possible if you want it to be.

Don't just read this blog today and not make a change.

Take a step back. Analyse yourself. Ask what you have to do to make this the biggest 6 months yet. And then most importantly, take action on what you know you need to do.

Here's to another 6 months.

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