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Jack Salmon
October 21, 2025

Become the best you

Welcome to this weeks newsletter - My Ego Nearly Destroyed Me

The Top 10

Last week I asked both my community & social media to fire me some questions so I could do a solo Q&A.

I have narrowed it down to the 10 which stood out the most they are

I want to change my but find it so hard too
I want to work on my goals but I am scared of failure how to overcome - I am not outcome dependant
How to be resilient after set backs
How to keep motivated to achieve goals
What’s one thing you think people need to succeed?
What do you think makes the difference between people who change their life and people who don't?
How to channel positive thinking into work
How to deal with burnout before it happens
Best way to meditate and what should I think about
Do you believe in jesus

Lets dive into these into more detail!

Question 1:

I want to change my life but find it so hard too

Let me begin this by saying… Change is hard.

Stopping boozing and doing drugs is hard.
Building a business is hard.
Getting in shape is hard.
Improving your relationships is hard.
Letting go of friends is hard.

The truth is, changing and improving your life is hard but that’s the whole point.

If it were easy, you wouldn’t grow, feel proud of yourself, or develop into the person you want to be.

If you want to be someone who is disciplined, consistent, courageous, and mentally resilient, you can’t expect it to be easy, otherwise, you wouldn’t become that person, and everyone would be like this.

I feel good in myself when I’m doing hard things, when I:
Push myself on that run,
Speak up when I’m scared,
Stay at home when people are out boozing,
Overcome my fears.

I know when I’m doing these things, I’m becoming the man I know I want to be.

Alternatively, what sounds harder to you?
Waking up each day and growing into the person you want to be and making yourself proud?
Or waking up each day miserable, tired, ashamed of yourself, and hating the person you’ve become and are becoming?

The things that seem hard will allow you to have a great life, and the things that seem easy will ensure you have a hard life.
You just have to pick which one you’re willing to put up with, hard in the short term, or harder in the long term?

Two things that have helped me navigate the hard changes in my life are these:
1. Just honour the hard. Know that life is hard, and accept it. As soon as you expect it to be easy, you’re in for a tough ride.
2. Anything broken down into small steps is achievable. Whatever feels hard right now in your life might seem that way because it feels so big. By breaking it down into small, bite-size chunks, all you have to do is take one small action at a time and these actions compound into bigger things over time.

Give it a try on whatever you’re finding hard right now.

Question 2:

I want to work on my goals but I am scared of failure! How do I overcome this?

Straight away, you have to detach from the outcome.

If you’re solely fixated on the outcome, you might be fearful to take action.

Why?
Because most people tend to focus on what could go wrong rather than what could go right.

Personally, I only put a goal in place as an aiming point but I’m not attached to the goal.

I focus on the process.

I know if I wake up every single day and give the process all of me, I’ll become the type of person who can achieve the goal and that’s what I believe we all want anyway.

I don’t just want to complete a 200-mile run, I want to become the person who can complete it.

Someone who is:
Mentally resilient.
Consistent.
Disciplined.
Fit and able to perform like an athlete.

For whatever reason, I give everything I have to the process, yet I still fall short of completing the goal?

Yes, at that moment, I may be pissed but I won’t stop there.
I’ll look back, see what I could’ve done better, and go back for it again.

I’m not the type of person who defines himself by failures.
Failures are just feedback, showing you how to improve.
In my eyes, you only become a true failure if you quit.

If I were you:
Set your goal.
Detach from the outcome.
Give everything you’ve got.

If you succeed, great.
If you don’t, that’s okay too. It just means it’s time to improve and get better.

Regardless of whether you achieve your goal or not, you’ll always learn, grow, and develop along the way and that’s what’s truly important.

You can either sit back in fear and let time pass,
or step forward with courage and become someone greater.

Only one of these allows you to become your best self.

Question 3:

How to be resilient after set backs

This is easy and it comes down to two things, and two things only.

One: You need to know exactly who you want to be and where you’re heading.
Two: You need to know why.

Without clear clarity on your vision and why you must show up, it becomes easy to quit.

Whenever my back’s been against the wall,
everything’s going wrong,
and I feel like quitting...

I remind myself:
Who I want to be.
Where I’m heading.
And why I must never give up and who I’d let down if I quit now.

When you lack clarity and a strong reason to keep going, it’s easy to fall at the first hurdle.
Because what’s the point?
You’ll start thinking, “Why is this worth it anyway? Why do I need to deal with all this stress and pressure?”

But when you have a clear vision of where you’re heading and a strong, deep emotional reason to show up

You tap into greatness.
You sacrifice more.
You work harder.
You push through pain.
And you never give up, no matter how bad things look from the outside.

I believe to the core of me that if you have a strong vision in your mind, backed by a powerful why, and you keep going, it’s impossible not to get what you want.
And even if it’s not exactly what you wanted, it’ll be something greater.
I know this because I’ve proved it to myself time and time again.

If, right now, you lack clarity on:

Who you want to be,
Where you’re heading in life,
And why you must show up each day…

You need to figure this out before you move on, because this is what will make you resilient.

Question 4:

How to keep motivated to achieve goals

One piece of this puzzle is exactly what I just mentioned above, you need to have a strong why. Even if right now you don’t know how, but you know why, you’ll figure things out!

But to ensure you have motivation to achieve your goals, I suggest doing these exact things:

1. Be very specific with what you want to achieve. Example: Don’t just say, “I want to lose weight.” Say, “I am going to lose X amount of weight.” Our mind doesn’t like vagueness by being specific, you make the goal important and real.

2. Create a plan. You need to know exactly what to do and when you’re going to do it. Example: Run 3x a week: Monday, Wednesday & Saturday at 6am. Strength train: Tuesday, Thursday & Friday at 6am. Meal prep: Monday, Wednesday & Friday at 7pm. Then take this plan and place it in your diary or weekly schedule.

3. Set a deadline. Why? Because deadlines create energy, motivation, and urgency. If you want to lose 10kg, when do you want to lose it by? Set the exact date.

4. Have a review system. You want some form of review process in place, so you can track progress, celebrate wins, and see what needs improving. This builds momentum, consistency, and allows you to feel like you’re making progress along the way.

5. Define your why. You need to define your why for this specific goal. Every goal has a different reason, and when you implement everything above and back it with a strong reason, this becomes your fuel — the force that pushes you to show up and get it done no matter what.

Motivation is fleeting, discipline is what you really need to achieve great things. If you implement what I’ve just mentioned above, I have no doubt you’ll build the discipline you need!

Question 5:

What’s one thing you think people need to succeed?

SELF AWARENESS…

If you haven’t got self-awareness, it will be hard to improve your life.

Having self-awareness means you try to understand and question:

How you think and why you think this way.
How you feel and why you feel this way.
What beliefs you have that support you, and what limiting beliefs hold you back.
Why you act the way you do?
What your strengths and weaknesses are.
What you value in life — and so on.

This has been key for me in changing my life. I used to be the closed-minded person who thought life was just happening to me. I had a victim mindset. I didn’t think change was possible — I just thought “I’m this way and that’s it.”

But as I started to gain self-awareness, I questioned everything. And as I started questioning everything, the answers began revealing themselves to me — and I was able to improve my life.

Gaining self-awareness and understanding yourself on a deeper level takes time — and it’s a never-ending process. But the more you explore yourself, the more you open yourself up to new possibilities.

Something that has helped me massively is journaling.
I spend time each day writing down my thoughts and feelings, asking myself simple questions to understand myself more.
Things like:

How did I feel today and why?
What am I grateful for today?
What am I proud of?
What lessons did I learn today?
How can I improve tomorrow?

If you keep tracking your thoughts and feelings, you start to notice recurring patterns in your life — which then allows you to learn, grow, and develop as a person.

Question 6:

What do you think makes the difference between people who change their life and people who don't?

The people who change their life are committed.

Changing their life is a must, not an option. That doesn’t mean they’re perfect, they still make mistakes but they don’t let those mistakes define them. They stay committed to making progress, no matter how big or small.

They’re fed up with being who they are and won’t stop until they become who they want to be. They:

Invest in themselves.
Get help.
Push doubt aside.
Cut down bad habits.
Implement new habits.
Raise their standards and make a committed decision to change and not go back.

I’ve come across so many people who say they want to change their life, but when it comes to fully committing… they don’t.
They make excuses.
They push it back.
They doubt themselves.
And ultimately, they don’t commit to themselves.

It sounds like a good idea, but it’s not a must for them.
Other things like holidays, parties and events are more important than changing their life.

The ones I’ve seen truly change their life go all in on making it possible.

It’s not “someday.”
It’s today.

Which one are you?
Are you already committed?
Or have you been holding yourself back, thinking that one day you’ll change?

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Take a look here to find out more.

Question 7:

How to channel positive thinking into work

This one can be difficult if you don’t like what you do and let’s face it, 95% of people are doing something they don’t enjoy.

So, the first step for me would be to be honest with yourself and ask the question:
“Do I actually want to do this for the rest of my life?”

If the answer is no, I would seriously start thinking about and looking into what it is you truly want to do with your life. Because otherwise, you’ll spend the rest of your life doing something you don’t enjoy… what a waste of time, energy, effort, and ultimately your life.

That’s step one. If you resolve step one, just know it will take time to figure out. And even when you have the answer, you’ll need to spend a lot of time making it possible.
This will mean spending hours before or after your current job to make this dream a reality.

The good thing is, once you make that decision, you can start going to work with the mindset that this isn’t forever, it’s just a stepping stone to help you get where you want to go.
So you may as well build skills, develop traits, and earn money that you can later apply to something you actually want to do.

Now, if you can’t yet find something you’d love to do, then think about why you’re showing up to this job.
If it’s to earn more money — why?
Maybe you’re doing this job to earn a lot of money so that, in the future, you can do something you love or support your family in the way you want to.

Personally, I’d always try to find something I love to do first.
But if you can’t, you have to understand your why!

Question 8:

How to deal with burnout before it happens

I’m laughing as I write this because there hasn’t been a single year that’s gone by where I haven’t had an extreme burnout lasting over a month, aha.
But maybe because I’ve experienced it (many times) and learnt from it, I’m actually qualified to talk about it.

Here’s why I’ve burnt out in the past:

1. I was off purpose.
This is the most important one of all. Whenever I’m off purpose and not aligned with what I truly want in life — I burn out.
When I’m chasing money instead of helping people, I burn out.
When I’m posting to impress instead of to serve, I burn out.
Whenever my intentions behind my actions are wrong and I’m out of alignment with my purpose, it’s like burnout shows up as a sign saying, “You’re heading in the wrong direction.”
And as soon as I course-correct, I feel better.

2. Negative self-talk.
I was doing everything right externally, but internally I was being negative towards myself.
I was up early, sober, training, helping people… yet I kept telling myself it wasn’t good enough.
That constant self-criticism made me feel unfulfilled and eventually burnt out.

3. Doing too much and never resting.
This one’s common for most people. We work 12-hour days, train hard, and try to maintain every other area of life, without ever prioritising rest, reflection, or celebration for the work we’ve already done.
At the end of the day, your body and mind are systems and they need time to rest and recover. You can only push for so long before it catches up with you.

So how do we overcome this?

Understand your purpose.
Make sure all your intentions and actions are aligned with it every single day.
Practice positive self-talk and self-compassion.
Write down what you’re proud of each day. Reflect on your wins in the evening. Talk more positively to yourself throughout the day.
Give yourself recovery time.
Take Sundays off from everything. Book a self-care day once a month. Do things that genuinely recharge you.

Question 9:

Best way to meditate and what should I think about

I think everyone gets confused with meditation.

One, because there are so many different types.
And two, because people often think they shouldn’t be thinking but the more you try not to think, the more you end up thinking.

The best meditation I’ve practised is called Transcendental Meditation.
It’s where you sit in silence for 20 minutes and repeat a mantra to yourself internally.

Let’s just say the mantra is “Be.”
Inside your head, you simply repeat the word “Be,” at whatever pace feels right to you.

Now, when your mind starts drifting off and you begin thinking about other things — bring your awareness back to the mantra and keep repeating “Be.”
The more you do it, the easier it becomes.

You start to:

Become more self-aware of your thoughts.
Gain control over your thinking.
Improve your concentration.
Feel more present, calm, and energised.

Outside of that, I also like to visualise, which is another form of meditation for me.
I sit down, focus on my breath, and visualise things I’m grateful for, like my daughter’s smile, things I’m proud of, such as past accomplishments, and what I want to achieve in the future.

This has been powerful for helping me connect more deeply to myself and to the things that truly matter in my life.

My biggest piece of advice with meditation is: give it time.
When I first started, I really struggled and thought I couldn’t do it but with patience, consistency, and persistence, it’s become a key habit in my day-to-day life and has improved every area of it.

If you’re just starting, I recommend trying the mantra meditation I mentioned above for 5–10 minutes a day for the next 30 days.
Once the 30 days are up, increase the time!

Question 10: Do you believe in Jesus

I DO.

I’ll tell you what’s mad, if you’d asked me this question in the past, I would’ve said, “What a load of nonsense.”
But over the past year or so, I’ve found myself exploring what God is and what that really means to me.

I started praying day and night and felt a connection to something — like I was being guided. I hadn’t realised it before, but looking back now, I can see I’ve been guided the whole way; I just wasn’t aware of it at the time.

Up until a few months ago, God to me was just “God.”

It was a feeling
But It was something I couldn’t really explain.
So I started looking into Christianity and Jesus Christ, something I also felt guided towards.

Then I met someone called Will, who’s a devoted Christian.
I mentioned where I was at with God, my stance on religion, and why I wasn’t too sure about Jesus or Christianity.

He told me to keep an open mind and started sending me loads of evidence to help me understand more and strengthen my belief.

I can be very logical and need proof but the more I read, the more I prayed, and the more open I was — the more I believed.

I wouldn't fully call myself a devoted Christian, but I’m trying my best.
I read the Bible and scripture each day.
I pray twice a day.
I’m learning to surrender to Jesus and God.
And I’ve been attending church each week.

It’s small progress — but it’s progress I’m proud of.
And I can honestly say that by believing in Christ, Christianity, and God as a whole, it’s brought nothing but good things into my life.

I feel connected.
Guided.
Loved.
And free from feeling alone.

I know this is a process, but I’m dedicated and committed to strengthening my belief every day.

I just want to say thank you for taking your time out of your day to ask me questions, thank you for watching this video or reading my blog and thank you for always showing me support!

I hope this helped!

As, Always

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